Breaking the Board

Several years ago, I began focusing on my own personal growth and what I wanted to do with my life. I attended a workshop where one of the exercises was breaking a board with my hand. The purpose was not an idle exercise in physical strength. The purpose was to overcome fear.

On the near side of the board, we wrote what we were afraid of. On the far side of the board, we wrote what we would have or be if we overcame our fear. On the near side I wrote, “Fear of losing my relationship with my sons if I pursue my vision and purpose.” On the far side, I wrote, “I am going to pursue my vision and purpose and I’m bringing my sons with me into full human potential.”

As I took my stance to break the board, the instructors told us to focus on the far side of the board: what we would have or be if we overcame our fear. I focused on pursuing my vision and purpose and bringing my sons with me into full human potential. The board snapped. Students who focused on their fears didn’t break the board.

How, Together, Can We Co-Create a Peaceful, Prosperous Planet?

Patriarchal systems are breaking down. Top-down Communism no longer works. Top-down democracy, bought by top down corporations, no longer works. Monarchies and dictatorships are being challenged and overthrown.

Women are waking up and starting to think for themselves. Women are no longer willing to accept the roles into which men have placed them: sex object, subservient wife, mother, cook, housekeeper, babysitter. Women are no longer willing to sit idly by and watch their husbands and sons be slaughtered by other women’s husbands and sons.

As women take back their power, men are waking up, too. They are beginning to respect the awesome female collaborative and cooperative power that can lead our entire planet away from war and violence and into global peace and abundance.

Throughout the world, men and women are aligning to bring about reform. Occupy Wall Street has spread throughout the world, as the 99% challenge the 1% whose decisions have led us to the brink of destruction.

Together, we have allowed the major news media to shape our minds, thoughts, and emotions. People are tired of a steady stream of violence, verbal abuse, and news about what’s wrong with the world.

Good news media are springing up everywhere to replace the naysayers and spread good news about what is working. People everywhere are seeking a return to sanity, both in their personal worlds and their collective worlds. They are starting to think for themselves so they can release their fear and depression and start taking positive action to turn themselves and our world around.

There are two concepts that can help us understand what’s happening so that together, we can consciously co-create a world that works for all of us. One is holons. The other is Teihard de Chardin’s Noosphere.

The first concept, that of a holon, can be represented by the image above. If energy is inherent within each circle, and each circle is its own complete system (whether an atom, a cell, a heart, a human being, a planet, etc.), we have a holarchy or perhaps pure democracy or pure communism. Alternatively, we have undivided wholeness, with power and creativity flowing in all directions, top down, bottom up, and all around. Each circle/system is connected to and nestled within other more encompassing circles/systems, and all are involved in an energetic exchange that affects each and every part. The challenge is to align them and bring them into harmony and balance. For the past 2,000 years, this was done through patriarchy. How interesting that this image can also be viewed as a hierarchy when the underlying energy is flowing only from the top down.

The second concept is the Noosphere or Teilhard de Chardin’s thinking layer of earth. If each miniscule part of a holon is complete in itself and yet connected to all other holons, then each is connected to every other holon at a thinking level beyond itself. The Noosphere might also be referred to as the Akashic Records or the Field.

If we use our words, not to judge and condemn, but simply to share information, there is no right or wrong. There are only creative perspectives.

Some perspectives work better than others. Some perspectives are more encompassing and inclusive than others. No perspective is any more encompassing and inclusive than the perspective that everything is perspective.

The perspective that everything is perspective is freeing. The way we see the world is okay. It is also terrifying and humbling. The way others see the world is also okay. If we believe that everything is perspective, we must listen to and respect others as well as ourselves. We also need to be very aware, conscious, and accountable for all our actions.

There’s a fine line between chaos and heaven on earth. That line is non-violence and awareness. It’s a choice – for each  and every one of us.

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Janet Smith Warfield works with wisdom-seekers who want understanding and clarity so they can live peaceful, powerful, prosperous lives. Through her unique combination of holistic, creative, right-brain transformational experiences and 22 years of rigorous, left-brain law practice, she has learned how to sculpt words in atypical ways to shift her listeners into experiences beyond words, transforming turmoil into inner peace. For more information about Janet, go to www.janetsmithwarfield.com; www.wordsculpturespublishing.com; www.wordsculptures.com.

Fear

It’s hard to look at one’s own fears. – fear of criticism from others, fear of being different, fear of not measuring up, fear of being imperfect, fear of persecution, fear of fear. But fear is okay, and fear is part of the human condition.

For me, it’s really important to feel my fear when I feel it, accept it as part of who I am, listen to the messages it brings, and take appropriate action to release it.

If I’m living with a psychopath, the appropriate action is to break off the relationship and find healthier, more supportive relationships.

If I’m dealing with arrogant, pompous people, the appropriate action may be to accept the arrogance and pomposity without kowtowing to it and supporting it. If I can stay centered throughout their verbal explosions, they will ultimately exhaust themselves and retreat to a more human level. This is a wonderful lesson in spiritual centeredness and courage.

If I’m afraid that if I stand in the middle of a busy highway, I’ll get hit by a car, I better listen to that fear.

To release my deepest fears, even my terrors, I MUST trust and pray to a power greater than myself. Is there really any such thing? I don’t know. But when I’m feeling fear, I must believe if I want to stay functional.

The Practice of Journaling

Why Journal?

To help your mind escape from the hamster wheel of conditioned thoughts that keep circling round and round in your head, faster and faster, draining your energy, exhausting your spirit, and imprisoning your mind.

To help you discover and uncover information about a challenge you’re facing, move forward, overcome that challenge, and manifest the vision you want to manifest.

Open your Being to receiving information that may suddenly and miraculously clarify and expand your original vision.

Where to Journal:

In as quiet and supportive location as you can find, where no one or nothing will interrupt your thoughts. This could be a private room in your home, a quiet spot in nature, or whatever other location most supports you.

What You Need:

Anything that supports your ability to document your thoughts: a pad of paper, a pen or pencil, your computer, whatever other tools best support you.

Consider food, water, tea, coffee, juice, if these will support you. If they will get in your way, leave them behind.

Clothes in which you are physically comfortable.

A block of uninterrupted time, just to sit and write.

How to Journal:

  1. Settle yourself comfortably in your chosen space.
  2. Make sure your phone is off.
  3. Let your thoughts flow uncensored through your mind. Uncensored is vital!
  4. Capture as many of your thoughts in writing as you can.

Things You May Notice:

  1. Your mind is going faster than your hand or your ability to type. Just do the best you can to notice and document your thoughts.
  2. Your mind may suddenly go off on a tangent. Just document where it is going.
  3. Your body and emotions may resist where your mind is going.
    1. Is your body tensing? Contracting? Simply notice and document.
    2. Are shame, fear, or rage suddenly appearing? Simply notice and document.
    3. If any of these emotions becomes so intense that you cannot go on, simply stop and breathe deeply.
    4. You are always in choice. If tears start flowing, you can give them permission to flow, cleansing your pain and grief, or you can stop the journaling for now and process what has emerged.
  4. You may think you have one issue and suddenly the focus shifts to another issue and another until you end up somewhere totally different from where your little left brain expected to go.
  5. The original issue is resolved.
  6. The energy has shifted.
  7. You feel you’ve made progress even though your mind may now be focusing on a new, challenging issue.
  8. Having moved through an issue once, you’re no longer stuck in it. You can move in and out of it anytime you want.

Other Words for this Practice:

  1. Stream of consciousness writing.
  2. Big Mind watching little mind (from Buddhism.)
  3. The Witness (from Buddhism)

To Learn More:

https://liberalarts.oregonstate.edu/wlf/what-stream-consciousness

https://tricycle.org/trikedaily/big-mind-suzuki/

https://www.ramdass.org/cultivating-witness/

Supporting Yourself through Tough Times

When you’re navigating the turbulent emotional waters of a divorce, the death of a best friend, the loss of a job, a forced relocation, or any other major lifetime challenge, how do you stay sane and productive?

The answer sounds simple. Keep your focus on what’s working in your life. However, implementing it is not always easy.

From December 2006 through December 2010, when I fled Panama, I was trying to build a home in Boquete, Panama. The builders kept the architectural plans off site and had no onsite supervision.

They hand mixed the foundation concrete. When tested by the local university, the strength of the foundations was insufficient to support the house.

There was a light pole in the middle of the driveway and a wall where the picture window was supposed to be. The plumber pumped soapy water through the water lines and threw his tools across the yard whenever anyone suggested there might be a better way of doing things.

They built the septic tank too high so that the capacity was 20 to 40 percent. When they tested the water lines, the gauge went down 40 psi in three days.

They said it was the temperature and humidity. My inspector said, “Are you kidding?”

Finally, after 21 months of making mistakes and fixing them, they walked off the job in a tirade of fury and refused to finish the house. Oh, by the way, did I mention that they had forced me to use them in the first place?

Their next ploy was to demand $40,000 if I wanted to finish the house with another contractor. Excuse me! Did I hear that right?

Turning to the Panamanian no-recourse legal system was a waste of time and money. Lawyers are expensive, witnesses can be bribed, judges can be paid off, and getting a decision can take years. The decision is invariably against the foreigner.

How did I stay sane through all this and survive one of the most disastrous mistakes I have ever made? I simply put it out of my mind and focused on the good things in my life.

It was far easier said than done. It took a lot of working with my own mind.

Every time I thought about my dream home turned nightmare, I was livid. I had to consider the possibility that I would have to walk away from a $300,000 investment and let it rot. For yet another time in my life, I had trusted people who didn’t deserve my trust.

Yet, I couldn’t help but notice what my anger was doing to my body. When I focused on the rotting house, I couldn’t sleep. My energy was blocked. I kept banging into a stone wall with no solutions and no support. I had to let go, not because the builders deserved it, but because I needed to retain my own sanity.

My book Shift had become an Amazon Best Seller. It was being translated into Bulgarian, Russian, and Indonesian. It was being distributed in India. The Russian translation alone had sold almost 2,000 copies in its first six months.

I was negotiating distributorship agreements with North American and United Kingdom distributors. Radio and television interviews were pouring in.

Workshops were bringing participants exciting new insights that suddenly turned their lives around. I simply made a conscious choice to focus on all these good things.

I’ve been a member of MasterMind groups for years. Every two weeks, all MasterMind partners exchange templates. The first section of the template is “My Successes.” When I write these down, I remind myself of all the good things in my life and all the things I’ve accomplished. There simply is no room left for discouragement.

Breaking the Board

Several years aBreaking the Boardgo, as I began focusing on my own personal growth and what I wanted to do with my life, I attended a workshop where one of the exercises was breaking a board with our hand. The purpose was not an idle exercise in physical strength. The purpose was to overcome fear.

On the near side of the board, we wrote what we were afraid of. On the far side of the board, we wrote what we would have or be if we overcame our fear. On the near side I wrote, “Fear of losing my relationship with my family if I pursue my vision and purpose.” On the far side, I wrote, “I am going to pursue my vision and purpose and I’m bringing my family with me into full human potential.”

As I took my stance to break the board, the instructors warned us that students who focused on their fears didn’t break the board. They instructed us instead to focus on the far side of the board: what we would have or be if we overcame our fear.

I slammed my arm forward into the board, focusing on pursuing my vision and purpose and bringing my family with me into full human potential. The board snapped.

How about you? Can you keep your focus on your vision and purpose and slam through your own board?